First, Jerry, I real sorry to hear that. Especially with all the traveling you do. Maybe the folks at Etymotics can do something for you, since this is not the first time. I`m not a big fan of anything stuck in my ear, so I go with headphones like Grado and Sennheiser. I probably would have to get ear molds made like Jerry, because my ENT doctor told me, that my ear canal was a little small.
bluzrip, the people at Headroom "Right between your Ears" are excellent. HeadRoom - Right Between Your Ears
They call themselves, headphone geeks, and have the widest selection that I know of, of headphones, and headphone amps in the industry. I do not know if you are looking to get another pair of cans, so not to wake up your wife, but I believe the Headroom folks can help you out.